{"id":344,"date":"2011-06-30T17:10:42","date_gmt":"2011-06-30T21:10:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nationalaltarguildassociation.org\/?p=344"},"modified":"2013-03-07T15:53:28","modified_gmt":"2013-03-07T20:53:28","slug":"mary-martha-or-martha-mary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nationalaltarguildassociation.org\/?p=344","title":{"rendered":"Mary Martha or Martha Mary?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The Rt. Rev. Kirk Stevan Smith<\/p><\/div>\n

A school friend of mine, who spent most of his childhood in Roman Catholic parochial schools in the 1950s, once jokingly remarked to me that it was not until he was a teenager that he learned that all girls were not named either Mary Martha or Martha Mary!<\/p>\n

Both of these women have places in our liturgical calendar and are honored by the church. \u00a0We know they were sisters of Lazarus of Bethany, and by all accounts were two of Jesus\u2019 closest friends. From the earliest days of the church, biblical commentators have viewed them as embodying two opposing types or models of faithful Christian women. Martha, the activist, always scurrying around taking care of all the chores; and Mary, the contemplative, who, much to her sister\u2019s irritation, neglected the housework to sit at Jesus\u2019 feet.<\/p>\n

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Christ at the House of Martha and Mary, Peter Paul Rubens<\/p><\/div>\n

Whenever I hear this story, I think of two of their real-life namesakes who were parishioners of mine. One, Martha Davis, was the wife of a priest who worked with me at St. James\u2019 in Los Angeles. Martha was a nurse by training and was the consummate care-giver. She opened her house to a constant stream of visitors who could be sure they would never leave hungry. Martha loved to cook and also loved to eat, especially while watching pro-basketball games on TV. She was also the co-director of the altar guild and was a force to be reckoned with. Martha had no patience for liturgical experimentation, which she referred to as \u201cmonkey business.\u201d For Martha, worship was to be finished as quickly as possible so she could get back to work.<\/p>\n

Then there was Mary Abbott. Mary was younger than Martha and of a completely different temperament, even though the two were friends. Mary sang in the choir. Her voice was not professional, but that was not why she was there. For her, singing was a form of prayer, a way to glorify God. I could always count on Mary to be present at Bible study and worship and to ask deep and thoughtful questions. If Martha was always to be found in the parish hall kitchen, Mary was equally likely to be found in the church sanctuary.<\/p>\n

Mary and Martha, like the women in the Bible for whom they were named, represent two different expressions of spirituality, and not only for women. There has always been a dichotomy between these two kinds of Christians, between the monk and the caregiver, the prayerful introvert and the fellowship-hall extrovert, the meditative and the active Christian, the parishioner who likes Gregorian chant, candles and dark Gothic spaces and the one who prefers the bright lights, upbeat singing, and big crowds of a mega-church. Episcopalians tend, on average, to be Marys, while Marthas are more likely found among the Baptists.<\/p>\n

But whatever the denomination, I suspect that most of us tend toward one type or the other. Some of us are Marthas who are the caregivers and who volunteer for every church activity and program, while others, the Marys among us, would rather be left alone in a quiet nave or Bible study class.<\/p>\n

The point of the story, however, is that Jesus loves both types. True, he tells Martha that Mary has chosen the \u201cbetter part\u201d by electing to sit at his feet, but he makes it clear that he loves them both and that both their ministries are important and valued.<\/p>\n

Jesus, in other words, opts for a balanced or holistic spirituality. We are asked to move prayerfully inward as we confront our deepest longing for God while we move outwards towards compassionate engagement with those in need. One theologian calls this \u201cthe radical journey inwards and the radical journey outwards.\u201d Prayer without action is just navel-gazing, while action without prayer is shallow do-goodism. We need to be both Mary and Martha<\/p>\n

I would like to suggest, with some trepidation, that the church has been guilty of forgetting the need for this balance and that it has, through most of its history, tried to keep Mary and Martha apart, especially in its treatment of women.<\/p>\n

As a bishop I am going out on a limb here. After all, the office of bishop is the historical embodiment of male patriarchy in which power, control and dominance have trumped the more feminine virtues of kindness, compassion and mercy. I would echo the words of Franciscan theologian Richard Rohr that \u201cWe white males have been holding all the cards, naming all the questions and providing all the answers except for those few short years when God took poor flesh in Jesus. He took twelve men and tried to show them how they could be part of the solution rather than part of the problem. But it mostly didn\u2019t work. Males continued to build towers and operate as lords over others, and women stuff just didn\u2019t fit in. The church is still preoccupied with dominion to this day.\u201d The result is that we are still arguing over theology and property and who is in and who is out. Rohr concludes:<\/p>\n

\u201cPoverty, meekness, nonviolence, tears, justice, mercy, purity of heart, peace-making are Jesus\u2019 opening statements, but try to get elected in a Christian country or promoted to bishop while following those teachings!\u201d<\/p>\n

Rohr even goes so far as to speculate that the reason God came into our world as a man, Jesus, was that if he had come as a woman and taught an ethic of love and of turning the other cheek, everyone would have dismissed her saying, \u201cOh well, a typical woman.\u201d<\/p>\n

And so the result has been not only to deny the feminine nature of God and of the Spirit, but it has also been to push women over to the Martha side, denying that they could possibly know anything about the nature of the Spirit, study theology or serve as clergy. What they were good for was church housekeeping or taking care of those who, like them, had no power or money. It was OK for a nun to care for the sick or to teach school children, but not to teach \u201cseminary.\u201d It was acceptable for women at the church to sew quilts, teach Sunday school or to stand at the stove and make cakes for the bake sale, but not to stand at the \u201caltar.\u201d It was fine for them to be Marthas, but the \u201cbetter part,\u201d the Mary part, \u201cthat\u201d was for men only.<\/p>\n

In the Episcopal Church until just 30 years ago, it was fine for women to be active on the ECW but not on the vestry, diocesan convention, or even to read the lessons on Sunday morning. They could teach children in Sunday School, but not adults.<\/p>\n

This has changed as women in the church have begun to reclaim their Mary-side. Prayer, contemplation and worship have again become central in the corporate life of church women. Take for example the Daughters of the King. Whereas the ECW has traditionally been more oriented towards service work or raising funds to support ministry to those in need, the Daughters have dedicated themselves exclusively to a ministry of prayer and contemplation. They have said, in essence\u2014to a male dominated church\u2014\u201cmake your own coffee!\u201d<\/p>\n

Again, both Marys and Marthas are needed. Jesus could not do without both his friends, and the church cannot exist just with contemplatives or just with activists.<\/p>\n

It is my belief that as women in the church begin to reclaim their Mary-self by their participation in prayer, in academic learning, and in leading worship, that they will have a healing effect on the male-dominated church as well. You will help to provide some feminine balance to an institution that has often forgotten its true purpose as it has gotten caught up in petty power games. Women need to be the voice of sanity and say to those who are fighting over theological fine points or institutional niceties, or suing each other in court\u2014\u201cNOW BOYS!\u201d<\/p>\n

by The Rt. Rev. Kirk Stevan Smith, Ph.D., Diocese of Arizona<\/p>\n

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